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When I contemplated the word “generous”, I struggled. Admittedly, some have become jaded as they witness the extent of greed in our society as well as the horrendous misuse of funds. Perhaps having observing the extent of what some consider acceptable theft, or observing people stepping on others to obtain a promotion. Indeed the news is full of such examples resulting in a cloud of suspicion and negativity as we shake our heads in disgust and shame at where some have allowed themselves to go.
During particular occasions, christmas being one of them, or perhaps a special birthday or anniversary, we are compelled by generosity to make the occasion as special as possible and it gladdens our hearts to do so.
Conversely there are many who epitomize generosity in spirit and it’s a part of who they are. I thought I’d share just one example of a moment of unexpected generosity that touched my heart.
While sitting in the car not far from the mall entrance, I watched a frail gentleman struggle, his gait unsure, as he made his way to the door. Many hustled by him accidentally bumping and nudging him and he nearly toppled over. A younger man walking nearby, witnessed the incident. He walked closer to the older man, held out a hand and I watched him introduce himself. The older man seemed startled at first. They shook hands after which, he took the older man’s arm and guided him the rest of the way to the door. He didn’t stop there. He opened the door and cleared a path for the gentleman, holding the door until the dotteringly slow gentleman entered. Another conversation resulted. He didn’t walk away but assisted the man on, into the mall and out of sight. I was overcome with emotion at the tenderness of the moment which moved me to tears. The generous display, unsolicited, and obviously heartfelt all the more valuable as a result.
We often hear of huge events arranged on a massive scale, and while I certainly don’t negate the momentousness of what was accomplished as a result, I find I’m far more touched as a result of the daily moments of generosity available to all of us. That helping hand, the kind word, a moment in which to uplift or assist another in meaningful ways that has a profound and lasting affect on the recipient.
I’ve experienced generosity of nature here, among this delightful community of bloggers, who constantly offer uplifting and thoughtful words of encouragement. Generosity of nature is not lost here. I want to take this opportunity to thank all of you who offer that spirit freely and willingly and although on the surface, we may not see the affect, it is felt and appreciated.
An apology accepted or rejected can change your world. A sincere apology that is. An I’m sorry from the heart for something said or done that cut another to the quick and splayed them open like a fish! Instantly you know it. You feel it. You see it.
And no matter how much the other individual means, can we apologize? Do we get so caught up in the heat of the moment in the “thing” that created the atmosphere in which an apology became necessary, that we cannot? Whether it is lack of humility or the feeling they will lose part of themselves if they do, some simply can’t bring themselves to truly, humbly apologize for something hurtful said or done.
The result? It leaves a mark on both individuals, a stain upon the soul that lingers on. It begs the question, is that what’s gone wrong? As families, people, individuals, as a humanity as a whole, have we become so stiff necked, arrogant and so egotistical that a sincere apology is beyond us? And over time, the feelings of worthlessness associated have built up so that a bridge, a wall has built that is impossible to overcome?
Others apologize abjectly, profusely, unequivocally. Sometimes it is rejected out of hand or accepted, but not truly, and waved off as meaningless. Doesn’t that have the same effect in reverse? On rare occasions, it could be argued the insult, the hurt was insurmountable and unforgivable.
Still, that sincere apology lifts us up, makes us feel better, saves us from that dark abyss we are instantly plunged into when the full weight of what was said or done bears down upon us. And the acceptance by the other party relieves us of guilt. It goes deeper though and often restores the balance between, closing a chasm that was unseen.
An apology accepted or rejected will change your world.